Rejection feeling (part two)
We
continue the articles of rejection
feeling and I will start this article
with saying this: if God the Father
did not spare His only Son Jesus who
died on the cross to save us from
eternal hell, do you think after all
that I can not run to into His bosom,
I do not think. Do you think He needs
someone to soften His heart towards
us? I tell you His heart is full of
eternal love for us.
There is
no need to repeat words that are
contrary to the word of God such as I
am unworthy. This is true that there
are no one worthy of forgiveness of
sins for the wages of sin is death.
But by the blood of Jesus our sins are
forgiven if we offer a true repentance
from the heart and believe that He
died on the cross, carried our sins
and gave us His life.
Please do not say there are better people
than myself and they will speak on my
behave to God because they pleased Him
and I do not. That is true that there
are people more righteous than you,
but do you know why? Because they read
the promises and they believed them
and honor them. They believed that
Jesus died for their sake and forgave
their sins and gave them
sanctification. Why do not you take
them as example? Enough doubting in
the greatness of the blood of Jesus.
Beloved, Jesus Himself gave this promise
“and the one who comes to Me I will by
no means cast out.” {Joh6:37} “If I
regard iniquity in my heart, The Lord
will not hear.” {Ps66:18} our prayer
will not be answered if we regard any
iniquity in our heart. May be this is
the answer to many question of why God
does not answer our prayers. If this
is true, try to have a quite time with
God and with the guidance of the Holy
Spirit and ask the heavenly Father in
Jesus’ name so God can show you the
thing that blocks the voice of God in
your life. Have faith that God will
hear and answer you “ And you will
seek Me and find Me, when you search
for Me with all your heart.”
{Jer29:13}
Causes of rejection and the healing of
Jesus for these causes:
financial:
many
think that because of their low
financial status, people will reject
them. This is may be true in the past
generation, but this is not true these
days. I know some who suffered
financially in the past but they
worked hard to establish themselves.
They worked hard in their study and in
their work and they succeeded in life
and now they are very much respected
by everyone. And also I know of some
who were financially better off than
many when they were young, they were
used to be comfortable, they did not
work hard in their study and at work,
you can say they are now unsuccessful.
Beloved: the person has to work hard at one
time of his life. He either work hard
in the begging of his life or in the
middle or in the end. We have to obey
the commandment to please God. You
will not know the commandment unless
you read it in the Bible. That is why
I always advice that you should read
the Bible daily as well as studying
it. Some may ask how can I study the
Bible? Read the New Testament before
you read the Old Testament and read
from the gospel of John then go to
Luke and Mark and Mathew then go from
acts to revelations.
Physical disability:
unfortunately some people evaluate the
person with their eyes, with what they
see, they do not look at the inward
person for values and morals and a
true knowledge. If you are one of
those who value the person on his
appearance, I hope you take a moment
of truth with yourself and ask: if you
have hurt someone with physical
disability ? if you said to someone a
word to remind him with his
disability? If you said something
knowingly or unknowingly and hurt a
child of God or anyone, please sit
alone with the Holy Spirit and if you
can correct the wrong that you caused,
please do so for the sake of your
peace and the peace of the person you
hurt.
How can I correct the wrong I did?
If you hurt someone with words, please
apologize with words. If you have
ignored a person at a time, please try
to respect him when you see him again.
Try to cancel the wrong you have done
with the right thing and in the same
way.
But if your feeling of rejection has no
grounds but it is only your feeling of
your disadvantage, I want you to see
yourself through the eyes of God “But
the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look
at his appearance or at the height of
his stature, because I have refused
him. For the LORD does not see as man
sees; for man looks at the outward
appearance, but the LORD looks at the
heart."” {1Sa16:7} dear ones do not
focus on the disability you have but
search your heart first because God
sees your heart if it is pure and full
of the Holy Spirit or not. He sees
your heart if its thoughts are
heavenly or earthly.
If the person sees him or her ugly:
beloved the word of God says
“For we are His workmanship, created
in Christ Jesus for good works, which
God prepared beforehand that we should
walk in them.” {Eph 2:10}we are his
workmanship. Did God ever made
something ugly? It is impossible. Some
may ask why I see myself ugly? I will
tell this story and it happened to me:
My
husband and I knew an American man, he
was very angry person. We were like
older brother and sister to him and I
saw him as very ugly person. And one
day he was very happy and this is the
only time I saw him very calm and not
angry. I looked at him and noticed
that he was not ugly like the other
times. I could not stop thinking why
he did not look ugly at this time.
What changed his feature. Believe me
his features were different. I could
not find an answer to my question
until I arrived home. I knew the
answer. He was happy and I never saw
him happy before but rather he was
always angry, that is why his feature
changed from an ugly person to a nice
looking gentleman.
If you
make this observation yourself, you
will notice that God’s children look
like angels, the children who have
true relationship with Jesus Christ.
Remember we are His workmanship, created in
Christ Jesus for good works.
Some
people raised up in a family that
differentiate between boys and girls
This is very common in the Arabic family
that they differentiate between the
boys and the girls. They prefer the
baby to be a boy than a girl. We see
the wife suffer greatly from her
in-laws because her babies are girls
and not boys. Even after the research
showed that the deciding factor is the
sperms of the husband and not the egg
that comes from the wife. After this
finding the wife still suffers from
the in-laws by harsh words such a: all
her babies are girls, he should have
married another one, and more and more
of these harsh words.
I stop here and say to the parent: please
take care of boys and girls in
equality and fairness. There are no
differences between boys and girls in
the sight of God. How many times I
have heard how the mother prayed and
prayed that God will give a boy since
all her children are girls, and they
say that in front of her daughters. I
normally stop the conversation and say
let us thank God for the girls and the
boys.
Few years ago I have seen a program about
the Indian families and how when the
wife become pregnant, the husband
insist that the wife has ultrasound
done so he will know if she is
pregnant with a boy or a girl. If she
is pregnant with a boy she will keep
him, and if she is pregnant with a
girl she will abort her. Husband has
no desire to have girls. The reporter
was commenting that this will cause a
disturbance of the population where
there will be many men and no girls to
marry them. This is what exactly
happened. Few months ago I was
watching the TV and I saw documentary
about India and they were talking
about marriage in India and how there
are no girls to marry and mentioned
how in the past men made their wives
abort the unborn girls. I was really
surprised because I do not watch much
TV and I would not say it was pure
coincidence to watch two programs
about the same topics few years apart.
God created Adam and Eve and not Adam and
Andrew and not Adam and Anthony. We
have to have male and female for the
family to form. Many families wish to
have a girl and many wish to have a
boy. Believe me if we accept what our
Lord Jesus Christ gave us we will be
very happy.
Persons
raised up in a family differentiate
between members of the family
This is
another big problem and that is to
differentiate between the older son
and the younger one. One of the signs
that the parents prefer the older son
is they buy new cloths for the older
son and the younger son wear his older
brother’s cloth. So the younger son
never has new cloth. The parent’s
argument is his older brother clothes
still in a good condition so there are
no need to buy new cloth for the
younger one. This causes severe wounds
to the younger one. The financial
statues of the family could be the
reasons. I do advise the family to buy
cheaper cloths for both children so
both of them can wear new cloths. If
parents knew the devastating effects
they cause on the younger one by doing
so, they will think a hundred times
before they do that. Believe me I do
not speak hypothetically but I speak
the truth I hear in the consoling
session. If parents hear what I hear
they will be changed, that is why I
write these articles so people will
understand the damage they cause to
others.
Certain
incidence caused the person to feel
rejected
I wish
every person treat everyone with
cautious. Believe me the kind word
will not cost us more than the harsh
word. The appropriate action will not
cost us more than the inappropriate
action. Love is much easier than hate.
Thanksgiving and appreciation has much
more fruit than neglect.
I have known many nationality and I found
that the Egyptians hurt many with
their harsh words without even
noticing and the excuse is they have a
sense of humor. Unfortunately some
actually mean what they say. I will
give example to that:
I have a friend whom I did not see for many
years. He became a servant in the
church, when he saw me he made this
comments: are you still alive? His
comment disgusted me because he is now
in a high spiritual level. I answered
him : I am still alive just as you are
alive. If I was a person suffering
from rejection, his comment would have
made me in deep stress. But I answered
him in a way that made him feel that
the comment was totally off the mark.
I hope we think carefully of the
consequences for what we say. At the
same time I encourage everyone if he
hears someone making a comments out of
line to answer in a respectful manner
like I did at the same time expresses
how they feel towards the comment
which was out of line.
Warning to the family:
beloved, every behavior comes out from
every member of the family has an
effect on the emotion of the child. It
could have a negative or positive
consequence that is why I advise all
members of the family to try to
correct the wrong they cause to the
children. Here are some advises :
1- please watch how the children behave
with their toys, doll or car. If you
watch the girl plays harshly
with her doll and beats her up, rest
assured that she sees her parents do
that with her. The girl always behave
with the doll in the same manner her
parents do with her. But if she behave
with the doll in a nice way and kiss
her, you can be sure that this is the
way her parents behave with her. From
this behavior the parents understand
how the child see them.
2- try to listen carefully to what the
child says to you. The child does not
know how to lie unless he is under
threat that if he says something wrong
you will not like, you will beat him
for it. In this he will say I love you
and his heart is full of fear from
that you will beat him. If he said you
love my older brother more than you
love me. You can be sure that his view
of you is true. If you ignore his
conversation with you and you did not
correct that by words such as I love
you as much as I love your brother and
try to prove it to him by giving him
attention and love, he will naturally
feel rejected. Please listen to your
children
3- Do not use abusive words such as you
talk too much, you make me sick, you
are stupid etc.
Beloved, after this discussion about
rejection, the parents should be wise
when they deal with their children.
The parents will see wonderful results
if they behave wisely with their
children.
